A dating app has taken a big step by adding a new feature to keep up with an emerging relationship style that’s been making headlines recently thanks to Abbie Chatfield.
Hinge added a “relationship type,” where people can indicate whether they’re looking for or are in a non-monogamous relationship, looking for monogamy, or not sure what they’re comfortable with.
The new feature includes details like your age or occupation.
At this stage, users cannot use this feature to filter out based on relationship type like they can with things like sexuality or age.
While a staggering 86 percent of people claim they want monogamous relationships, there is an emerging trend for this dating style — also known as ENM, or polyamory — in the LGBTQIA+ community and Gen Z.
Essentially, relationship style takes many forms, but at its core, it is the idea that both partners in a relationship experience and act upon romantic or sexual attraction to more than one person.
Logan Ury, Hinge’s director of relationship studies, told news.com.au that there are many misconceptions about non-monogamy, e.g. B. that it means they are cheating or that people who practice have attachment problems.
She added that just because you’re in that relationship style doesn’t mean you can’t cheat — every relationship has rules and boundaries.
Ms Ury added that there must also be clear boundaries and research before engaging in non-monogamy.
“Discover why you care about non-monogamy. The foundation of successful and healthy non-monogamous relationships is honesty,” she told news.com.au.
“You need to be able to have a conversation with your partner from the start about what you’re comfortable with, what your boundaries are, how you deal with potential breaches of trust, etc. Start by discussing why you’re both on the subject.
“You might both want to explore emotional or physical intimacy with more people. You may be interested in exploring relationships with people of opposite sexes.
“If your answers sound more like ‘All our friends do it’ or ‘This will solve our problems’, don’t go any further.
“Non-monogamy is not an effective way to hide from your relationship problems. In fact, it will often enlarge them.”
She said it’s important to get started by reading books such as
Opening: A Guide to Creating and Maintaining Open Relationships to get a clear understanding and talk to people you know who are practicing.
Ms Ury added that it is important to define what non-monogamy is for you.
“Unlike traditional monogamous relationships, non-monogamy is much more open to interpretation. If you ask eight couples what their non-monogamous relationships were like, you might get eight different answers because there’s no strict definition,” she said.
“For some couples, an occasional smooch is okay if someone is out of town at a conference, but not much more. Other couples have rules against sleeping with someone in their extended circle of friends.
“A friend of mine can sleep with other people, but not more than once. These rules have to be defined in advance.”
She said conversations about protection, contraception and sharing knowledge about dating your partner also needed to be shared.
But at the end of the day, it’s important to make time for elementary school and get together regularly to embark on a new adventure together.
Because celebrities like Abbie Chatfield were open and honest about their relationship style with their former boyfriend, it led to many people in pop culture having a point of reference for what non-monogamy looked like.
This, Ms Ury said, is incredibly important to making others feel good.
“When celebrities in non-monogamous relationships share their stories, it sparks important conversations about the pros and cons of these structures,” Logan said.
“It inspires other people to explore new possibilities and find the type of relationship that’s right for them.”
While other apps like OKCupid and Feeld had such features, including a section where you can link profiles to your partner, Hinge is the first mainstream app to officially recognize different relationship styles.
Ms Ury said a surge in inquiries about non-monogamy has led to the app including relationship types.
“At Hinge, we like to think holistically about how to serve the unique experiences and identities of data. Ultimately, we want to empower our users to find intentional and meaningful relationships,” she said.
“When you’re matched with someone and you find out that one person seeks monogamy and the other person doesn’t, it can be quite disheartening.
“Our new feature will allow anyone to see at a glance on profiles if the other person has the same relationship goals.”
Originally published as Hinge is adding a new relationship feature to the app as dating trend spikes occur