The ultimate poses for shared problems, increased intimacy



Although not everyone talks about it, the majority of people will experience sexual problems at some point in their lives. That’s according to the Between Us Clinic, which recently conducted a survey of the best sex positions for tackling six common sexual problems.

Writer, board-certified sex educator, and sex/love coach Suzannah Weiss said most couples will encounter some kind of obstacle at some point in their sex life.

“Maybe they feel less desire for each other over time, or maybe one or both partners are having trouble with arousal, orgasm, or pain during sex.”

Weiss assured that these problems are common, adding that they shouldn’t be ashamed.

“While it’s important to discuss them with a doctor or therapist, sometimes simple solutions like changing position can go a long way.”

For the study, Between Us Clinic surveyed 43 sex experts to find out what positions worked best for those struggling with issues like premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, intimacy issues, orgasmic issues, pain during sex, and more.

Which sex positions are best?

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Overall, the top positions as determined by the study were Spooning, Missionary, Doggy, Cowgirl, Reverse Cowgirl, Butterfly, Missionary with a Wedge/Pillow the Coital Alignment Technique, Lotus, and Passive Doggy.

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The basic finding from the study seems to be; “Where there is a will, there’s a way”. That means where there is a common problem, there can be a sex position that can potentially help.

Take penetration depth as an example: If you feel the desire to reach more depth, the experts interviewed by the clinic recommend the “butterfly” and even call it “the ultimate position for increasing penetration depth”.

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“The closer your legs and hips are together, the deeper the penetration feels. So when you put your feet together on your partner’s shoulders, something like missionary will immediately feel very different,” commented certified sex therapist Jessica Rubinstein.

It should be noted that the study broke down which positions worked best for which common sexual problems, in addition to explaining why.

Important Findings

In addition to the above recommendation, here are some key findings from this study of 43 sex therapists and educators in the US and UK:

30% of experts said the best position to delay ejaculation is the spooning position as it limits the depth and speed of thrusting and allows for better control.

According to 35% of respondents, the doggy position is the best position for improving erection strength as it is less likely to restrict blood flow to the penis and many find it visually very arousing.

The most effective positions for enhancing intimacy are missionary (29%) and the lesser-known lotus or “yab yum” (30%) – these create opportunities for eye contact and full-body caressing.

For more information, see the Between Us Clinic survey here.

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